share in someone's misery

commiserate

verb|/kəˈmɪz.ə.reɪt/

To express or feel sympathy for someone's misfortune

Examples

In a meeting

After the project was cancelled, we commiserated over coffee about the wasted effort.

Over coffee

Let's commiserate about our terrible dating experiences.

Why this word

sympathize

Commiserate implies sharing in someone's suffering or disappointment, often expressing mutual misery, while sympathize suggests feeling concern for someone from a more external position

console

Commiserate emphasizes sharing in the misfortune or expressing mutual understanding of hardship, while console focuses on providing comfort to ease someone's grief or distress

empathize

Commiserate specifically involves expressing shared sorrow or disappointment about a negative situation, while empathize is broader and refers to understanding any emotion, positive or negative

Usage tip

Use when discussing shared suffering or mutual consolation. Implies both parties relate to the difficulty, not just one-sided sympathy.

Etymology

Latin 'commiserari' from 'com-' (together) + 'miserari' (to pity)

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